May 19, 2023

My Spectacular Betrayal

We had compromised in our marriages, denied parts of ourselves, often felt lonely, but who didn’t? Weren’t we happy enough? I was sitting at DK Donuts […]
April 21, 2023

Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself

Sometimes it’s easier to help others face marital conflict than to do it yourself. I decided to get a puppy. To prepare, I created a spreadsheet […]
March 17, 2023

Here Lie the Bickersons, Side-by-Side for All Eternity

When I bought a burial plot for my almost-ex-husband’s girlfriend, I never guessed who might end up there instead. Recently I came across the deed to […]
February 17, 2023

Must We Feel Shame Over Divorce?

In my South Asian community, where ending a marriage is relatively uncommon, the answer seemed to be yes. My husband, in-laws and parents had all gathered […]
February 3, 2023

Two Kisses We Never Talked About

Sometimes you really have to show up for your ex. This was one of those times. Kevin and I separated two years ago; only on paper […]
February 2, 2023

An Enduring Commitment, Wedding Ring or Not

One woman’s quest to find a replacement for the too-small gold band she has had for more than four decades. I don’t wear my wedding ring […]
December 16, 2022

My Stint as the Adulterous Flavor-of-the-Month

I was trying to have an experience and ended up having a life. Enrique was married, so I shouldn’t have been surprised when he dumped me. […]
December 9, 2022

‘You Bought the Wrong Nipple Clamps’

Our relationship was impossible, which of course is what made it possible. After the third time Charles and I met, I sent him an email that […]
December 4, 2022

Day 4: Tiny Love Stories for the Holiday Season

The holidays are a time of joy and celebration but also often spur feelings of loneliness and longing. As editors of the Modern Love column, we […]
November 23, 2022

Encore: When Two Open Marriages Collide

Listen and follow Modern LoveApple Podcasts | Spotify | Stitcher | Amazon Music “This situation — entering the hospital room of my wife’s lover — risked […]