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How do you know when you are in love? No 1-800-line psychic will tell you. No notice sent by registered mail. Not even a ping from your iPhone. But there are a million ways of figuring it out, and we’ve asked some people when they knew. Here is one way:

When he makes you feel calm.

When Molly Yeh, a lifestyle blogger and the author of the cookbook “Molly on the Range,” began dating Nick Hagen, her classmate at Juilliard who is now her husband, she didn’t get sweaty palms or butterflies. She felt a sense of calmness. Ms. Yeh, 28, didn’t need to pretty herself up around him; their first date was a long, sweaty bike ride from Boerum Hill to Rockaway Beach to watch the sunrise.

“I just knew he was the one because with him I was the best version of myself,” she said. “We talked and talked and talked, and I thought, ‘I could be trapped on a deserted island with him and never get bored.’”

Soon after, they visited the farm of Nick’s parents in East Grand Forks, Minn., where she fell in love with the open prairie. After a year of dating, they decided they wanted to leave the city and move closer to their families, and while Nick, 30, never pressured her to move to the farm, she knew he wanted to work alongside his father until his retirement.

They moved to the farm in 2013 and married in 2014.