Dating and Relationships

September 22, 2020

Tiny Love Stories: ‘I Didn’t Want to Like Him’

‘Don’t Ever Lose This Rock’ Six years ago, on a humid evening at an open-air bar in Vietnam, a tipsy acquaintance gave me a rock. She […]
September 12, 2020

Spice Up Your Pandemic Love Life

For many people, the monotony of the last 160-plus days has depleted just about everything. You aren’t alone if you barely recognize yourself, let alone your […]
September 3, 2020

‘Black Love’ Keeps It Simple: Honesty, not Antics

In an episode from 2018, the actor Glynn Turman sat on a sofa with his arm draped affectionately around his wife, Jo-An, as the two recounted […]
September 1, 2020

How to Submit a Modern Love Essay

ImageCredit…Brian Rea Although Modern Love has evolved into a podcast, a book, a TV show and Tiny Love Stories in its 16 years, the column’s central […]
July 17, 2020

Trying to Feel Love-Worthy (While Working for a Dating App)

As fascinating as it may sound, working in customer service for a dating app tends to be repetitive and mundane. During each eight-hour shift, I often […]
June 29, 2020

For Lesbians, TikTok Is ‘the Next Tinder’

On Feb. 3, Lauren Vlach received $8 on Venmo, spread across four $2 payments, from a girl she had never met. Each payment included a block […]
June 5, 2020

My Quarantine Boyfriend Lost Everything (but Found Me)

I met my quarantine boyfriend in early March, right before everything went down in New York City. Or possibly I met him years earlier when our […]
June 4, 2020

‘His Body Doesn’t Belong to Me’

When my boyfriend walks through the door of our apartment every night, he strips. While I’m still on a Google Hangout with my colleagues, there he […]
May 29, 2020

Love Letter: Should You Text Your Ex?

Quarantine life has left us yearning for human connection, so it’s no surprise that exes have turned to texts as a means of reconnecting. Some in […]
May 22, 2020

Not Saying My Dog Is Cupid, but …

You can tell a lot about a man by how he treats his dogs. My ex-husband called Tilly, our Labrador retriever mix, “pinhead.” He banished her […]