Welcome. In a couple weeks, it will be Thanksgiving, a holiday whose most cherished traditions — gathering in large groups, communal meals, a million permutations of togetherness — are off limits this year. We’re reconfiguring our celebrations, arranging video feasts, halving or quartering the mashed potato recipe to make Thanksgiving conform to the new rules of the season.

One tradition that inspires mixed feelings is the time during dinner when each attendee tells the assembled what they’re thankful for. Reflecting during a raucous banquet is an often disconsonant moment, a call for vulnerability that can be moving or (depending on the amount of wine consumed) embarrassing. The writer A.J. Jacobs, in 2018, described the custom as “more painful than hand-scrubbing the casserole pan,” before endorsing the practice anyway.

This year, expressing gratitude seems more essential than ever. It’s been difficult lately not to focus on what we’re missing, the people we’re not seeing, the places we’re not going and the things we’re not doing. Articulating what we’re thankful for is a radical act in the midst of a hard time. Turning our attention to the things we do have rather than what we don’t is a tough task, but a crucial one.

The psychologist David DeSteno wrote in The Times last year that gratitude is wasted on Thanksgiving. He pointed out that “one of gratitude’s central purposes is to help us form strong bonds with other people” and the moment when we’re surrounded by our families and those we love best, we’re not looking to forge bonds. Of course, that observation presupposed a regular Thanksgiving, a scrum of loved ones around the dinner table, passing the yams. This year, we are doing what we can to feel closer, to generate Thanksgiving intimacy without actually occupying the same space. If we’re separated from our family and friends, then giving thanks, whether via video, email, text or from six feet across the yard may help us feel a little more connected to each other.

Tell us.

What are you thankful for this year? Whether you’ll formally express gratitude at Thanksgiving dinner, note it in a journal or meditate on it throughout the holiday season, what things, people, ideas are you appreciating right now? Write to us: athome@nytimes.com. Include your name, age and location. We’re At Home. We’ll read every letter sent. As always, more ideas for leading a full and thankful life at home appear below. See you on Friday.

How to deal.

• Scientists are studying dogs’ DNA to see what can be learned from it about how we age (and how we might age better.)

• Even in an anxious time, children’s anxiety is treatable. Here’s what to do.

• And see what colleges are doing to prevent students from bringing the coronavirus home with them for the holidays.

What to eat.

• Consider a buttermilk brine this Thanksgiving: try Samin Nosrat’s famous technique on a spatchcocked whole turkey, on turkey breast, or make her original chicken recipe.

• If anyone at your Thanksgiving table thinks they don’t like brussels sprouts, Nik Sharma’s recipe should change their minds once and for all.

• And for faster, more flavorful potatoes, J. Kenji López-Alt suggests you stir-fry them.

How to pass the time.

• The worlds of chess and fashion don’t usually intersect, but the Netflix series “The Queen’s Gambit” is changing all that.

• Old movies, songs and video games that conjure nostalgia can help us cope during stressful times. So why not stream the entire John Hughes back catalog this week?

• And Dwight Garner pronounces Hilary Holladay’s new biography of the poet Adrienne Rich “a good story well told.”

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